How to find The g spot? and how to use G-Spotters: Curved Heads Make the Vibe for the best orgasm
Some insertable vibrators are designed specifically for G-spot stimulation, and you can tell because they have distinctively curved heads (as opposed to the straight style of slimline or phallic), and some have balls on the end of them; the curve is meant to aim directly for that sensitive spot on the front wall of the vagina.
Most vibrators in this style are made of hard plastic, softer PVC, TPR, or silicone. The firmness of a G-spotter vibrator is part of what makes it work because the G-spot responds well to hard toys and deliberate pressure during penetration. If you want something firm, smooth, and slim for penetration, try the Orchid G or the Satin G, which are both made of hard plastic and produce a moderate amount of vibration.
B, made of pliable thermoplastic rubber, is shaped like a hooked finger. Halfway down the toy is a wider ring with textured nubs on it; when you slide it inside you, the nubs stimulate your clitoris in the front and the outside of your anus in the back. So if you’re looking for a G-spot vibe that’s flexible and provides additional external stimulation, it’s a good bet.
The staff of one of the first women-run sex shops, Good Vibrations, designed their own line of vibrators, and two of them are all about the G-spot.
The G Twist ($65) is a silicone curved vibe that has a ridged texture all along its shaft and one exaggerated ridge near the bottom to stimulate the clitoris when it’s inside you. The G Swirl ($65) is also silicone and has a shape similar to the Nubby G without the nubs on the wider ring portion; because of the wide ring, both these toys can be used vaginally and anally.
How to Find the G-Spot
The urethra is surrounded by the urethral sponge (also known as the G-spot), which is made of spongy erectile tissue that contains paraurethral glands and ducts.
You can feel the G-spot through the front wall of the vagina, about 1 to 2 inches (2.5 to 5 cm) inside the vaginal opening.
Like the clitoris, the G-spot is not just an isolated spot of sensitivity, but part of a network of nerves, muscles, and tissue. When a woman is turned on, the glands within the urethral sponge fill with fluid, causing the sponge to swell; as it becomes more pronounced, it’s easier to find and more sensitive to stimulation. The more turned on a woman is, the easier it will be to find her G-spot. So, before you go hunting for it and especially before you start stimulating it, make sure you warm her up.
To find the G-spot, it’s best to start with your fingers, because our sense of touch is keen and connected right back to the brain. Make sure your fingernails are clean, short, and well filed before you begin any penetration with them. If you’re not sure about your nails, slip on a latex or nonlatex glove to transform your fingers into smooth tools. Slide a finger inside 1 to 1½ inches (2.5 to 4 cm) and aim toward the front wall of the vagina. If you stroke the area, you should be able to locate the G-spot.
Compared to the smoother tissue of the inside of the vagina, the G-spot will have a different texture: It will feel wrinkled or ridged. One of the best techniques to use with your fingers is a “come here” motion. With your fingers inside your partner and against the front wall of the vagina, move your fingers toward you and down slightly as if you’re saying “come here.” It’s almost like you are trying to pull the spot out of her.
Be sure to warm her up with your fingers before using a toy. Once you’ve found her spot and she’s turned on, lube up the G-spot vibrator and slide it inside her. Remember, the G-spot is only an inch or two (2.5 to 5 cm) inside, so you don’t have to go all the way in to reach it.
You want to aim the curved head of the vibrator at her G-spot. Some women like to have the toy pressed against the G-spot with only a little bit of movement while the vibration does most of the stimulation. Others like an in-and-out motion and can feel the head of the vibrator hit the G-spot as the toy slides in, then out again.
Alternate Uses: They’re Not Just Insertable!
Most people assume that when they see a phallic-shaped vibrator that it’s meant for penetration.
While all the vibrators and styles covered in this chapter are insertable—and many are designed specifically for penetration and G-spot stimulation—they all have another function as well: You can use any of them as clitoral vibrators.
That’s right! Don’t be fooled by the label “insertable”; many of these vibrators work just as well for clitoral stimulation. In fact, because most of them are about 7 inches (18 cm) long and 1¼ to 2 inches (3 to 5 cm) in diameter, they have plenty of surface area to cover the clitoris and surrounding parts of the vulva.
Simply hold the vibrator parallel to your torso and press the bottom half of it against your clitoris. How’s that for a versatile toy?!